Family and Divorce Mediation

Diamonds aren’t always forever…

Sometimes love isn’t enough. Maybe divorce mediation is the answer…

No one ever thinks after years of marriage that it will eventually end in divorce – but this is where you are and what you’re facing.

You don’t know how it ended up this way, as you thought “Our love would last forever.” 

Regardless of the reason, this is now your reality. You’ve tried everything, but you both realize now is the time to begin the process of filing for divorce. 

You’ve built a life together – accumulated years of memories (some good and some very bad), may have children and shared a life – yet, you’ve grown apart and are both in a completely different place.

This is not a failure. Rather you both realize the person you married is no longer the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

It is possible to divorce with dignity….

There’s no easy way to avoid the fact that divorce can be extremely messy, but it doesn’t have to be… 

That’s correct – many couples who decide to utilize mediation find peace knowing they are in complete control.

When going through a court system, you may lose all autonomy in the decision-making process and outcome – as another person is deciding the fate of your future. 

When this occurs in a courtroom, you are left to feel exposed, humiliated, and dehumanized in a room full of strangers. 

But it doesn’t have to be that way – which is why many choose mediation, rather than allowing a court to decide the fate of their future. 

In fact, by going through mediation, you will find that you are always in control and are able to make the final decision that is best for you, each other, and your family. In a courtroom, you are at the mercy of a judge.

What mediation is…

While mediation is not for everyone, I believe it might be a perfect alternative for your situation. This is a process that places both parties in control of their life.

The mediator serves as a neutral third party who will help you and your spouse navigate through some of the following: division of assets, establish child and spousal support, arrive to a conclusion about custody and parenting responsibilities, and any other issues that need to be resolved between now and the end of the divorce. 

We’re not here to make any decisions for you. 

Rather we will help each of you navigate and figure out the best way to move forward through this life-changing and difficult process.

Some common reasons you might consider working with a mediator:

• Control and autonomy of your life, family and future – ultimately the decisions made during this process are up to you both.
• Comparatively, it’s much cheaper – You don’t have an extra $15,000 – $50,000 to spend on attorney fees, court fees, and litigation costs.
• Less time and energy – The average divorce can range anywhere from 9 months to 4 years, while mediation can move as quickly as 4-12 weeks.
• A neutral party to help facilitate the process – Wouldn’t you rather work with someone who remains unbiased and provides fairness?
• It’s more humane – While divorce can be emotionally and financially messy, you want someone who values you both as a couple, but most important as individuals…
• The well-being of your child(ren) – You realize your divorce can be devastating to your children. Utilizing mediation will equip you with the skills to effectively work together in your future journey as co-parents.
• Competence – You want someone who is knowledgeable and trained.
• It’s not a war to be won!!! – You have made the decision that, while this is difficult you will work together to compromise and find a solution.

More and more individuals are utilizing mediation as an alternative approach when navigating through their divorce.

What it’s like working together.

One of the reasons we’ve decided to incorporate mediation into this practice is that while it’s sad for any relationship to end, we believe that it is important and also possible to provide support for couples who are challenged with this decision. 

While divorce is often complicated and messy, working with a mediator can provide clarity and a sound mind, as each of you begin the next stage in your life. 

You’re probably considering mediation because you understand that while you’re choosing to dissolve this marriage, you also understand that deep down you both are reasonable and have the capacity to work together. 

While we will provide guidance through this process, it’s possible that you will come in with the intention of terminating the marriage and later realize you want to repair the relationship, which is perfectly okay. 

Should you find yourself at this juncture, we can discuss how to transition into couples therapy. 

Ultimately, our goal is to provide each of you compassion and fairness through this process that is not usually experienced when dealing with lawyers or the courtroom.

While in mediation we will accomplish the following:

• Division of property, assets, and liabilities.
• Determine parenting responsibilities and child custody.
• Establish child support.
• Spousal maintenance
• Taxes and retirement

We’re here to guide you through this process – but most importantly to provide fairness, dignity and respect.

What happens next…

Together, we will walk through this journey. You should find peace knowing help is on the way. 

As professionals who are trained and experienced in divorce mediation, we’re here to guide you through this process! 

We’re here, waiting to begin this journey with you both… 

Now is the time to act. 

The next step is to call for a FREE 15 -minute consultation.

We want to get to know you, answer any of your questions, and discuss how to set up an initial appointment.

We’re excited to know that you’ve entrusted and chosen us to walk along side you both through this difficult time. 

We look forward beginning our work together.